The Invisible Load of the Holidays: Why Women Feel So Overwhelmed This Time of Year

For many women, the holidays magnify the “invisible load”—the mental and emotional labor of planning, organizing, and managing family expectations. From meal planning to gift purchasing, decorations, and emotional support for everyone else, the demands can feel relentless and exhausting.

Recognize the Emotional Load

Fatigue, burnout, and resentment during the holidays are normal. The invisible load is real, and acknowledging it is the first step toward self-compassion.

Strategies to Manage the Load

• Acknowledge your efforts: Celebrate what you accomplish rather than focusing on what’s undone.
  

• Align with your values: Decide what truly matters and delegate or let go of tasks that don’t align with your priorities.
  

• Ask for help: Sharing responsibilities isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s essential for maintaining your mental health.
  

• Practice self-compassion: Treat yourself with the same care and kindness you give others.
  

Managing Expectations

Recognize cultural, familial, or societal pressures that may be unrealistic. Remind yourself: you cannot—and should not—carry the emotional weight of everyone else’s experience.

Final Thoughts

By acknowledging the invisible load and practicing self-compassion, you can reduce resentment, reclaim your energy, and focus on what matters most. This season, give yourself permission to pause, delegate, and protect your wellbeing.